This is a notice to anyone who is a fan of Laura’s or a follower of hers on Twitter, or mine, or Laura Mennell Fans, and other Twitter handles used by the owner of the Tumblr page dedicated to Laura. This person has accused me of being “hostile” or sending him supposed nasty DMs via Twitter. This post is to deny all of that. I need to post this because this person has never sought to engage in a discussion that didn’t include demands and or orders. He believes that by simply asking him to speak to me via email, direct message on Twitter or through this site in terms of the contact page, methods that do not include “airing the dirty laundry” as it were, are somehow attacking him or being nasty. He has accused me via those direct messages of being angry. He claims that the reason I don’t want that dirty laundry aired publicly is because I don’t want Laura to see how I act, as per his direct message to me via another Twitter account is here in this screenshot:
He does not understand that this has nothing whatsoever to do with my not wanting Laura to “see what I’m like in private”. It has to do with him wanting to control the message. There was something Laura told him she didn’t want on his Tumblr page, however, he believes that if she says that to him, it applies to me. She has not told me she does not want images here in this gallery. Until she does, he has no right to continue to badmouth me publicly. I will not tolerate it. I have been running these types of fansites since 2006, and with the exception of ONE instance where there was some confusion, I have done so unabated. I have even been asked by one of the people I run a fansite for to be their official site. I will not say who it was because those contacts are private and not for public dissemination. Just as any private communication should be, but due to various things not to do with the personal or anything bad, it was decided that this person wanted to go another route, and that was abandoned. I remain this person’s admirer to this day.
As for what this person in THIS instance did to me in terms of taking to Twitter to say specious things about me, I call that unfair and to have continually tagged Laura in his tweets is not only wrong, but very wrong. This is not about being one up on anyone, as he did when he accused me of being jealous of his page. This in a comment made here on this site. I am not jealous of his page because I have no reason to be. I have no reason to be jealous of his online communications with Laura, however, he seems to think I should be. Having as I said almost been the official site for one of the people I run a fansite for, I’m far, far, far away from being a star stalker or as in other instances a starfucker. While being in communication with Laura via her Facebook and Twitter accounts is wonderful, it does not validate me as a human being. Unlike some who need that, I do not. Life goes on and the world still revolves around the sun. And even when we’ve ironed things out, or so I’ve assumed we’ve ironed things out and gone back to business as usual, this person has behaved like this time, and time and time again. I’ve taken as much as I’m willing to with him, or as much as I should be made to take.
I am deciding what to do with this site. I’ve put a hell of a lot of work into it in terms of the money I’ve paid out for certain assets, as well as the time and effort I’ve put into creating the new layout, graphics and the various pages within this site. Not to mention the time it’s taken to edit the screencaps and other photos already in the gallery. Then the fanlisting I created also hosted here. The thoughts of taking it down is something I do not wish to consider, but then the question is “Should I?” I’m 53 years old, and far, far, far away from being someone interested in the aforementioned starfucking. I have never sought to meet any of the people I have fansites on, and am not so sure I would if I were given that privilege. The one thing that has sustained me throughout many personal losses I’ve had over the past couple of years, has been these websites I run. They have been my solace, and for a very long time I debated whether to take to social media to promote them for this very reason. The interwebs being as they are, many times this is the only way one can create awareness for these sites, which is what I did when I linked these websites to my official Twitter, Facebook and Instagram accounts to post my updates. I did not expect to encounter this type of stupidity. I had hoped with this person to keep it civil and to keep it personal for no other reason than to avoid the “I’m telling mom” sort of juvenile behaviour this person has engaged in. And by “telling mom” I mean tagging Laura in each and every single one of his posts when he believes “I’ve done bad!” This is not only unprofessional, but also bad form.
For now I’ve blocked him from viewing this website as well as my tweets from his various accounts. I have un-followed his Twitter accounts and blocked his direct messages and tweets, and done the same to him viewing mine. I do not have exclusive squatting rights over Laura, and neither does he. He seems to think he can shoot off at the mouth anytime he pleases and feels totally vindicated for doing it. He somehow does not understand that until Laura tells me directly what she wants in terms of certain images — and by those I mean nudity, of which I do not and would not post those — it is none of his business what I post on this site. He is not the owner of this site. I am. He also has no right to bad mouth me to Twitter and to those who believe he has the high ground. He does not. I am willing to let bygones be bygones, however, I will not be threatened nor preached to. I will accept an apology….and a permanent one, not one that depends on the weather that day. But I was NOT the one who started this. He did. Until I receive that apology via public media, he will not be allowed to view this site and I will never follow him or his various Twitter accounts. There is a right way and a wrong way to do things. And his was definitely the wrong way. I had thought of taking this site to a full domain, but for now I’ll leave it on the subdomain until I decide for sure what I want to do. For now the site will remain in its present form with the requisite updates as they come in terms of Laura’s various television projects both past and present. If anyone wishes to comment, feel free. If you are posting for him, or if he posts from a different IP, it will be posted but know this, I will not tolerate attacks against me. I did not start this, but I sure as hell will end it.
Yours, Dianne (webmaster)